SA's birthday, easter and some other things

Hey, i feel like i have been away for so long. thank you to all u guys who take time to stop by. Bless your heart.

I feel like a lot has happened but now that i am here, i seem to have forgotten it all. Let me start from easter. I thot i was going to have a long weekend of rest, but apparently that was in my dreams. had to travel so early on friday and there was traffic on the lagos-ibadan expressway. we finally get home, and the prepeartaions start, by the way SA went with us . By monday when we were coming back to Lagos, we had paid for our engagemnet outfit, booked the cake, booked the hall for the engagment, checked out the hall booked for the reception, started our counselling. It was hectic but I thank God for all that we achieved.

Counselling ehen, it wasn't so bad. we had to say what we liked about each other, our spiritual, educational and family background. The man said no sex ( and it is an order) and then he got started about the type of wedding gown i am expected to wear. From all he said i think it would just be nice if i got an overcoat, you know the type they wear during winter. I honestly dont know any bridal shop that sells what he described. Thats that about easter.

Its SA's birthday tommorrow. I am so excited you would think its my birthday. I think SA is excited too, he is just trying to hide it. Anyway I bought a cake and he keeps saying how he wants to buy chinnos trousers, so I got him one, and then on saturday I am throwing him a suprise party.
I will be so broke after saturday, but when i think of how much i love him and how good he has been to me i dont worry . The parry is for just 15 friends of his and it is in his house.

I will keep you nice friends of mine updated about the party.

Its really a long post. I hope you dont get bored reading it. God bless and keep you all.

Upset

I was just so upset yesterday and up until this mornin(not a nice way to start the week u'l say) Almost everybody was annoying me.

SA- He jst doesnt know how to keep to time, and he will just keep wiving it aside like the fact that we are running late doesnt matter at all. Yesterday we went for his friend's wedding thanksgiving and we were supposed to go for my friend's baby's naming ceremony. I asked him what time we were goingto get to my friend's place and he said to tell them 2. when we finished the thanksgiving aat 11.30, he then said we should start going to with his friend to their house(ISOLO) and i reminded him that we have to be back in ogba by 2. He said yeah we were still going to make it and that he wanted me to see their wedding album as he wants the guy to come and take our wedding pics.

We got to Isolo and these pips just start faffing around, when it was 1.30 i say to him we have to start going, he then says his friend's wife has started cooking and we have to wait to eat besides he wants to eat pounded yam. we waited and at 2.30 she brings the pounded yam which was filled with lumps( I was laughing wickedly in my mind)

the wedding album;I saw the pics and i am like i dont like this guy's work, there is a way that wedding albums look these days and that is what i want. SA became angry that what more do i want, but i just wouldnt be bothered. Imagine the photographer cum video man forgot to take pics of the bride as she was coming into church he was busy taking the choir and i told SA as much. He then went on and on about how i want to waste money on just pics, he is not interested in photobooks and i musnt pay a photographer to do it. I was so upset.
We get to my friend's at 4pm, and luckily everybody told him how if i say i am coming at 2 i actually mean 1.30.

SA's Siblings-In my enagagemnet list they asked them to buy obi abata(kolanut) and Atare( I dont know the english word for that) Thats how they went up in arms saying they are xtains and those things are usually used to worship some gods. My dad says to them we are a a xtian family and we wont be worshiping any god with it. But they just wont stop, saying all sorts about how this is not the 1st time they are goingto marry smbdy so why do they need to buy that stuff. Meanwhile my dad says no eng without those things. Their self-righteous behaviour is getting to me. I asked SA to go and tell my dad himself his siblings are having sleepless nights over those things but he should pls leave me out, cuz i am just getting pissed at them feeling like they are the only xtians on earth.

K-This is my friend who is married by the way. He jsut refuses to accept that marriage makes all the difference. He thinks we all can still be as cosy as before. So he has now become so clingy and annoying. He always calls to say how u didnt ask after him and how he has been at work( and i am like pls reserve this gist for your wife) I was just upset with him yesterday, if i dont call u everyday it doesnt ,mean u are out of my mind, but i dont spend my waking thots thinking about you silly.

My sis-She can be so rough and obstinate at times. She will scatter the whole room and if u tell her to arrange it she just wont. I was so upset with her this morning. She has scattered this set of documents around the room for 2 weeks now I keep teling her to arramge it and the silly girl just wont. I had to rake for her this morning.

Enough of my rantings, I wish u all a God-filled week

Introduction and some other stuff

Hey, its been quite some time. This new job ehn. I have been so busy its embarrasing. I get home late and i have to leave early. I used to think i was a morning person but apparently i am not. I feel so tired and grumpy in the morning.

It was my introduction on sat, Kai i was looking so beautiful even me Icould not believe it. SA just kept saying how beautiful i was( bet the guy cant believe his good fortune). I had to take friday off at my new job, i felt so akward asking for time off but i had to do it and my boss was cool with it.

so I travel home on friday and my mum is besides herself with excitement. she kept telling me how she still had plenty things to do and how she still needded to dust our already sparkling house.
Daddy S and Mummy S ( u rmbr them) came on friday as they were suposed to have an inner cacus meeting with my parents. the meeting was going on well until daddy S said he couldnt buy some of the things on the engagement list beacause of his conviction. My dad went up in arms saying we are also a xtian family amd that we were not taking those things to the shrine of any god. ( i felt Daddy S was being unreasonable tho) Daddy S now says they will go and think and pray about it.

so saturday came and we were all excited it was supossed to start at 12 but SA didnt get to Ilorin until 1.30 by which time i was really annoyed. He said they missed their way. I was so embarrassesd and SA has this non-challant attitude sometimes.

we start and it goes on very quickly as a lot of people had to travel back. All my aunties and Uncle were there. When the alaga asked me to kneel in front of SA it felt a lil bit strange especially since i was beefing him.

so now the planning for the wedding proper starts. but btwn u and me I dont know where the money i"m going to spend for this wedding willl come from. i am only just trusting God.

I ave been going round nice and interesting blogs, just havent been dropping comments. I will get a move on with dropping comments.

All Sorts

Hey, its been quite some time and so much has been going on with me. I have been very busy< (dont ask me doing what though).

Yay! I got a new job in a finacial advisory firm as their legal officer, so eventually i get to leave smokey's office and lead a smoke free life. I know I am supposed to be excited about the new job and all, but if there's one sceptical person on earth it is me. I cant help but wonder what the place will be like, will the people be nice, will i impress my boss, will there be work for me to do( or i will be faffing around like i do in smokey's office) I really cant help but wonder. I am seriously praying for the best. The new job is in Lekki and my boss says i must resume at 7am(your sincerely likes to sleep) I wonder how he wants me to do it, the man also said there is no fixed closing time,please me I liketo close early and hang out with SA (if he closes early) My consolation is that I trust myself that i will find a way around that.

My introduction is coming up this next month, I also have mixed feelings, sometimes i get so excited, other times i caution myself cuz who knows what my in-laws to be will come up with this time.

My ex boyfriend got married, i was at the wedding but some people thought i shouldnt have gone( what do you think) This guy was my boyfriend in the uni, i knew we were not going anywhere anyway seeing that he is Jehovah's witness and i am not. However, I really liked him, but you know the way you like someone and that guy treats you like shit, this guy treated me badly, he was stubborn, just wouldnt bend and all that. Things became messy in our final year,he accused me of having sex with his friend( e gba mi o!) i decided to ignore him, i think this got at him, he said some really nasty things about me when we were in law school, he insulted my parents, siad he wasnt suprised i was sleeping with his friend as infidelity runs in my family, these and some other things are what he said.

He calls after law school to say how sorry he was and that he was pained that i wouldnt respond so he stepped up his game of saying nasty things each time.
At the wedding i was so thankful i wasnt the bride, i was just happy God helped me to retrace my steps and didnt let me make such a fatal mistake.

Meanwhile,its been so hot o! does anybody sweat like i do.

What should I call your Husband

Somethings just amaze me at this age and time.

My cousin went for a wedding over the weekend. the make up artist whom we all know so well then came with her husband. My cousin meets her husband and says oh what s your name and he tells her. later on she is trying to refer to him calls his name,the make up artist flares up and says dont call my husband by his frst name. My cousin then says what should I call him and she says UNCLE. My cousin said yeah rite like I know him from Adam. the make-up artist then decides to go up in arms. I am like hello, you husband is a young boy what is all these wahala.

Anyway on sunday we meet up with SA's friend and his fiancee. I call SA's friends by their first names, but sisi fiancee did not think that was right. She was so upset that she left so rudely and hardly said bye-bye to us. SA's friend and me are in the same age range. Sisi fiancee is really young so she calls SA uncle. I told SA to tell her to call him by his first name

My junior friend gets married and i was saying hi to her husband and she said to me are u still going to be calling him by his first name. please what should i call him.

All my friends, junior siblings and cousins call SA by his first name and we are both cool with it.

I just dont get this craze, is it that marriage adds more to a guys age or why does he deserve more respect because he is maried.

SA's pips

Thank you guys for all the nice comments. I feel a lot more better now, still dont know how to tell my folks sha o! But I guess I will cross that bridge wheni get there, which bythe way might be this wekend as they will be in Lagos .

To more happier things. SA is the last born of his dad and mum, he has 7 elder siblings, one of them is late so presently he has three brothers and three sisters. ( dont u just wish you were in my shoes) Anyway thats not all SA's mum died a longtime ago so his dad remarried . Rite now he has 4 younger siblings ( a large family you would say)

Ok now to the main gist, his elder siblings are all funnny in different ways. Let me start from the first person i meet

Sister D-She was just ordinary and quiet. She was more interested in when i am going to visit their old man. We dont see much of her sends a lot text messages saying hi.

Broda H( broda is the yoruba way of reffering to your elder sibling or someone older than you)- He meets me and says oh I am so glad to meet you.have you told your parents will they allow u marry my brother because your dad is a prof. Are u ready to marry my brother seeing that you are a lawyer and lawyers have lil or no regard for their spouses. finally he says i hope you know we dont wear trousers in our family(like its a family taboo or something) At this point I am thinking please be quiet.
Broda H is a nice guy who just says it the way he sees it. SA said not to mind him about the trouser thingy( I wasnt planning to anyway)

Daddy S( he is the first born) so we get to call him daddy. Daddy S and Mummy S are deeper life pastors. So there was no way i was allowed to wear trousers to their house, I had to resort to my ankara skirt and blouse. They were more concerned about whether or not we were having sex.They said we should make sure we are never alone 2geder, we should get a support system.

Sister T- She is very quiet too, she kept greeting me and saying epele ma. I was wondering whty she was using MA for me, but she is also a pastor's wife so I guess she was trying to be humble.

Broda R- He was really acting funny, later he said the problem is this trouser you are wearing. you can wear it in your husband's house but never to my house( point noted, remind me to never visit him).He also said are u sure u are ready for marriage as most lawyers think they are too big when it comes to marriage. In my mind i was like please cut the crap and say something new, your brother already said that.

Late Broda K's wife-She was really pleasant and very happy to see me. We bonded immediately and we started making wedding plans together.

Sister M-I am yet to meet, not looking forward to it tho.

So who still wants to be in my shoes and marry into a large family.

Failed Exams

I know I said I was going to write about SA's siblings next. Something else has overtaken it. I am kinda depressed right now.

Late last year, I wrote this professional exams and i checked my result now and i FAILED. I feel so low right now. My parents paid so much for me to write this exam, I dont know how I am going to face them to say hey guys I failed.

I really wanted to pass, I dont even know what the way forward is, I have never repeated a class or an exam in my life. I hate that this is happening now.

I just told SA and he didnt know what to say. I thot this exam would give me an edge and i would be able to apply for other jobs(i am tired of this one i have now)

I am trying to be bold about it but really I should just have passed my exams. I feel like an Olodo!

The propsal

getting my engagemnet ring was not the most romatic thing you have heard of. It didnt come the way i dreamt it would. But one thing kept ringing in my ears I am grateful for the giftof SA.
We were just chilling in SA's house one sat and his boss called him to start coming to work so yours sincerely had to start going home. We took the same cab and out f the blues SA said I have something i dont want to misplace and I said what, he said not to worry. He then said it again and i was thinking what is he saying, he then brought out the ring case and said bubu will you marry me. I was shocked I burst into tears.

He said why are u crying dont you want to marry me, of course i want to. I quickly said yes and we kissed. Only God knows what was goin through the cab man's mind.

After work, he comes over to mine with a bottle of wine , which we poped and drank to the many lovely years ahead of us.

I love my engagemnet ring,it fits my finger perfectly and I just cant stop starring at it.

Smokey sees the ring when we resume from xmas holidays and goes "bubu is that an engagemnet ring and when isay yes, his eyes were almost popping from his skul. Meanwhile i have another boss TB.

I get the vibe TB likes me, so when he saw the ring, he says"bubu are u for real,does that mean you are beating me to this wedding thing" I was thinking are we in a compettion or something.

My mum says the ring isnice and so have all my friends. SA feels cool with himself anytime somebody says to me nice ring.

It was suposed to be my introduction on sat, but SA's siblings in their characteristics manner asked that it be postponed. In thenext post i will tell u all about them.

Thank you guys for stopping by, i didnt think anyone was goingto stop by. Like I said in my last post not all is gloomy and dark in my life. There is one shiny and bright thing happening in my life. I am getting married! I am getting married later on in the year, to my best friend and brother. I will call him SA from now on.

I met SA through my cousin, he works in the bank that services my cousin's company. One day I meet my cousin in VI and she says hey bubu lets go see a movie this weekend and i say no problem. Sunday comes and my cousin was going on and on about how i should take extra time to look beautiful. I am thinking are we going to some place other than the galleria.

to cut the short story shorter, I met SA and his friend and we all went to see a movie. I was busy minding my business till he asked for my number and I was wondering what does he want that for. I refuse to give him( Small fronting) Monaday night he calls and since then its been so good.

SA makes my life beautiful, he adds colour to it. I couldnt have asked for a better boyfriend( now fiancee, I still find it strange saying that word). There are so many things to be said about SA, the proposal, the marriage plans, SA's siblings( who by the way crack me up everytime) and all that. I am so eager to pour it all out.
In the meantime let me get back to what smokey pays me to do. I hope to update again before COB.

This is my very first post.

I'm not a writer by anyone's definition. I've been keeping tabs on other people's blogs for a while now, i marvel at how gifter people are in writing. I have no such gifts.
But I've also realised blogging doesnt seemed to be for good writers, it seems like a place i can come and rant and rave and rant and rave some more (which is the main idea behind this blog) without bothering about what anyone thinks. So i've finally found the courage to start my own blog. Up me yeah?

So i intend to rant and rave about lots of things i.e:

Smokey: smokey is my boss. he smokes everytime and everywhere. he seems to be confused as to how to run a law firm (am a lawyer by the way, another rant topic) hence making a major part of my life miserable.

Uncle N (N for nuisance) : some Uncle who is under the impression that i live in a palace at ikoyi so i can easily accomodate his daughter for 6 whole months or find her an alternative accomodation, seeing that i have plenty money and just wish to be humble/miserly by staying in my own tiny apartment with my little sis.

Nerdy: thats my confused colleague who always has PMS! she's always sad about something. i could write a whole book about her.

Job Haunting: i'm seriously job haunting seeing that smokey is confused and so cannot help me anyway. i went to drop my cv at some law office and the man chose to abuse me + my parents cos am looking for a job. Am like, seriously???!!!

Not all is dark and gloomy in my life tho, you will find out soon.


i do have a lot to talk about but i have to go now, smokey is yelling about something now. have to go.

peace